Transgender Liberty

Who wants to live forever, when relationship loss is so painful? and how do we go on living, when the loss we suffer, especially the lost of a friendship or a love and even harder a relationship that was both? It can seem unbearable! In this blog I am going to talk generally about loss, all kinds of loss, and then I'm going to focus on recovering from Relationship Loss due to breakup, or divorce.  To start, lets ask the question 'who wants to live forever?' (raises hand) I do! I would love to be immortal for maybe...selfish reasons.   I want to see and do it all. I want to know the outcome of the story.  Well I want to at least live to see us find alien life. That for me would be very confirming of what I think about the universe. That we are not alone, and that we are not unique. That the Universe (maybe even Universes) is a vast place with other living beings in it. Or maybe we are unique... and maybe we realize something greater about how special we all are.... Bu...

These days I'm practicing kindness and gratitude, I'm thinking about how I can be kind and grateful, even when life seems to just be against me.   And with everything going on, all the busyness of our lives, failures, oppression, ignorance, miss information, miss understanding, isolation, state of our health, bills, work pressures, raising kids, divorce/breakups, deaths, losses, opinions, phobias,  and... of course the 'But wait there is more!' we are all facing.  So lets talk about finding Kindness and Gratitude and how they might help with all of it.  It is easy to let life's challenges overwhelm you  and I have touched on strategies on how to NOT allow life to overwhelm you in other blog posts. Yet I'm finding Kindness and Gratitude are two tools in our toolbox that we often overlook. Kindness   First Kindness is great! being kind costs you nothing, it is an infinite currency you can spend to make the universe a better and more loving place. An...

 Being transgender isn't easy, any transgender person can tell you this. The cards are generally stacked against us for many reasons made worse by broadcast studios, Hollywood, streaming services, sensationalized shows, bad press, political manipulation, Religious reasons, Ignorant persecutors, TERFS,  population control tactics, witch hunts, and flat out ignorance and fear mongering. This blog will attempt to explore some of this,  and at the bottom of this blog I'll site some sources for you to continue your education/journey if you so choose.  So where do we start to shed light?  there is so much to cover lets just dive in  Sensationalized Story telling for entertainment and business (Psycho, Monster, Silence of the Lambs, Dalhmer, latest netflix shows - Ed Gaines) First I want to Mention that the broadcast media is becoming a monopoly of only a few companies owning ALL channels of information and entertainment. Not to Mention Brendan Carr (FCC), appoint...

 Getting to Safe.  How do you get to safe? How do I get to Safe?  What does that even mean?  For me getting to Safe is about getting to a place where I know everything is fine and the future is secure economically and more importantly knowing that I can live my life freely without being a burden to others. It also means transitioning in a way where I feel comfortable and safe in my person. Getting to safe is not easy, there are many challenges, passing, funds, safety, health. And getting to safe is made tougher to accomplish by my age,  a recent divorce that shattered my retirement funds,  the fact that I started transition later in life. Getting to safe is also made difficult by the manipulation of people through fear mongering;  The hate groups, transphobic groups such as those J.K. Rowlings is a part of and or associates with secretly and publicly, the political groups (Trump and the extreme anti constitutional people in his camp), religious z...

I want to talk about being transgender, seeking companionship, dating opportunities and coming to peace with being alone. And it is my hope that others, regardless of transgender or not, can find some comfort, maybe confirmation, and peace by what I'm about to say. To start I have no illusions that as a transgender woman, and an older one, that my chances of meeting and bonding with someone is slim. Made more slim by age, sexual orientation, my gender identity, and made more difficult by my lack of a strong social circle. And I have no illusion that for many transgender people this is a tough situation they find themselves in. Not to say dating isn't tough for all of us it is. It is also a telling sign that 60% of marriages end in divorce. Relationships are just @#%% hard.  So where do we start to find someone? the obvious first thought these days is "Hey they got an app for that" mentality, so lets talk briefly about dating apps (And do read my post from Aug 29th for...